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Post by workingmum22 on Apr 25, 2007 20:48:22 GMT
Next week a friend of mine is coming down for the weekend with her new baby - who by all accounts does not sleep. Yet she suggested that we put boths babies in together in the same room (she is bringing a travel cot) but then my little fella will be awake all night if her baby keeps waking up. I am wondering if I will just put up with it for the weekend or will I ask her to take her own baby into the room with her ? And this is supposed to be a 'fun' weekend - I am a nervous wreck.  |
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Post by behanfamily on Apr 26, 2007 23:19:02 GMT
firstly hiya workingmum havent seen you online for a while. I can understand your concerns, and the new baby could upset any routine you have in place for your son. It is difficult as you dont want to upset your friend, but I would voice your concerns and perhaps suggest either baby sleeping in same room as her or moving the travel cot if your son becomes unsettled into her room. I hope the weekend does turn out fun, we look forward to hearing about it.
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Post by workingmum22 on Apr 27, 2007 0:29:06 GMT
Thanks Rachel - I think you are right and have to suggest that she keeps the baby in her room. Its not a huge room but she will have to manage I feel. I know that there is a part of me that is blowing this all out of proportion (well thats what my husband says) but I suddenly feel that everything has got so complicated in my life compared to before. |
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Post by behanfamily on Apr 27, 2007 19:54:14 GMT
but I suddenly feel that everything has got so complicated in my life compared to before. we are feel like that at times, hormones, lack of sleep, juggling lots of jobs - washing, ironing, feeding etc etc. Im sure your friend will understand, have a good weekend x |
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Post by behanfamily on Apr 29, 2007 18:31:56 GMT
hiya workingmum how did the overnight stay turn out?
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Post by workingmum22 on Apr 29, 2007 22:58:42 GMT
Hi Rachel, Well put it this way - they have gone. I would love to be able to tell you that it was a wonderful weekend and that it worked out brilliantly. But alas not so. I suppose the most annoying thing was that she never left the baby alone. Honestly I felt she kept poking it all weekend. And as for conversation the only thing we talked about was 'babies' and it got so boring in the end. I am even wondering how we were even friends in the first place. I know that having a baby is a life changing experience but I do realise that there is a life outside of it. For example we couldn't even our dinner without her baby on her knee. I strap my little boy into the buggy and he is delighted to sit there playing with a liga while we have our dinner - and everytime I made a suggestion she said that that wouldn't work for her baby. Its been a very loooooooooooooong weekend !  |
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Post by behanfamily on May 3, 2007 8:47:33 GMT
oh dear what a shame, Im sorry it wasnt as you would have hoped. As parents we all deal with things differently and perhaps dont always agree with how they deal with things, but you never know when you may need her as a friend, so dont give up on her - the newness of a baby will wear off and shell be glad when she can eat her tea in peace.
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Post by joanne on May 5, 2007 20:59:14 GMT
Couldn't agree more Rachel !!! I had a really good friend who went through the same phase of being totally consumed with her babies and baby talk - but I can assure you today she is a different person - we seem to talk about everything that has nothing to do with babies !!! I just think she has learned to relax more both with her kids and with herself .
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Post by behanfamily on May 8, 2007 16:18:15 GMT
When I first had Charlotte I didnt want to go out without her, or just talked about her every single moment as the "newness" of the miracle of life can take hold of us at times.
You soon realise that these little people need space to breath as we do, and time apart is good for all of us, and I have other interests too despite loving my family to death.
Crafting has brought a new purpose in life, and if it wasnt for my Thursday girlie nights out and being "Rachel" rather than mum - Id proberly do mad.
Tony and I try and go out together as a couple once a week too (infact tonight is our night out this week yah!!!) and again its important to be Rachel and Tony instead of Charlotte and Jacks parents.
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Post by workingmum22 on May 13, 2007 19:47:17 GMT
You know what you are probably right ! My friend may be just going through a phase - but please say its a fast one !!!! ;D ;D ;D ;D |
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Post by behanfamily on May 14, 2007 16:40:31 GMT
hehe cant promise it will be fast - but it will pass
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Post by noreenc on Jun 8, 2007 10:29:31 GMT
Had the same issue a few years ago with a friend of mine - for example she breast fed her child until she was five - kept her in the bed all the time etc It was impossible to meet her on her own for coffee !!! But now that her little girl is at school - she has done a total turn around and is back to her old self !!!So just be patient and give it time !!!! Worked for me !!!!  |
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Post by workingmum22 on Jun 10, 2007 21:42:12 GMT
Love your position outlook Noreen ;D ;D ;D ;DThanks ;D ;D
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