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Post by neasaod on Mar 20, 2007 23:38:35 GMT
This is going to sound really stupid but my DD who's 3 in April has started repeating herself. As in repeating a sentence over and over again. "I need Dora lolly, I need Dora lolly, I need Dora lolly etc etc" Now multiply that by 20, imagine you're driving and your late and she doesn't even like the d**n lolly!!!! It's starting to drive me round the bend. It's not so bad at home, if she get's into a cycle "I need the 'nother one, I need the 'nother one...." I can just start playing a game or get her colouring to distract her, but there are times when it's really trying on the old patience. Is this normal? My son never did it. I think she knows it'll get some sort of a result, and I've tried to ignore it but sometimes you just cant (I'll send ye a tape and I dare ye to play it trying to navigate a busy roundabout!!!) ;D
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Post by behanfamily on Mar 21, 2007 16:41:46 GMT
I can imagine your frustration and the patience tester. My daughter didnt do this so havent any direct experience with this sort of thing. I know its difficult to ignore so distraction. If your in the car and she starts perhaps try looking for things - birds, dogs, something for her to concentrate on outside, or perhaps talk about the weather "can you see the trees blowing in the wind".
Perhaps shes repeating herself in frustration, she knows what she means / wants but doesnt seem to be able to express herself - but Im only guessing
Im sorry Im not much help, didnt want to read and run, and wanted to wish you luck with what must be a trying time.
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joanne
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Post by joanne on Mar 21, 2007 17:09:43 GMT
This is a really interested topic you have brought up here. When we see a new behaviour emerging in our children - its important that we address it as quickly as possible so that it doesn't escalate into a bigger problem later on.
Its also important to understand that 'Behaviour' is a language children use - when they don't have the words to'. And as parents we need to understand that 'behaviour' - in other words what are they trying to say to you.
In all 'new' behaviours watch out for
- the intensity of the behaviour
- the duration (how long does it go on for)
- the frequency ( how many times a day / week etc);
Look at the environment the child lives in - has there been any 'changes' in their life recently,eg new baby in the family, new school, new house, anyone ill in the family etc).
All I am doing is trying to give you a few suggestions as to what might be happening to your DD. And while it may drive you around the bend (and I totally empathise with you here) this behaviour makes total sense to them. Whether its to get your full attention or to make sure you are listening - she is a clever girl because it certainly got your full focus !! So all I can say is that when you find out what happening for her - (remember you are the expert of your children) - the behaviour will have fullfilled its function and will disappear.
So for the moment try and make eye contact when you are speaking to her - to let her know that you are listening to her and in the car - I would distract her with either questions, CD songs and looking out the window. Let us know how you get on and if I find out anymore info for you - I will post it up! ;D
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Post by neasaod on Mar 26, 2007 23:32:32 GMT
Thanks Joanne and Rachel. I think ye are both right. Rachel, sometimes she repeats gibberish. She knows what she means but I don't (that never happened with my son, he just started talking) and Joanne, I think sometimes it's to get my attention. I'm just afraid shes getting into the habit of it now and that even when she has my attention, I know what she means, shes doing it unknowsnt to herself. It's not so frequent in the last few days so fingers crossed!
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Post by behanfamily on Mar 27, 2007 7:14:42 GMT
thank you for the update, lets hope the frequency becomes less and less
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joanne
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Post by joanne on Mar 28, 2007 21:34:39 GMT
Because you are now so aware of the behaviour - so will she. And believe it or not it takes 21 days to change any behaviour / habit !! What that means is that in 21 days you are 'consiously' aware of what you are doing - its no longer 'automatic' and therefore you can make a decision as to whether or not you wish to continue with the habit !! I have tried it - and it does really work ! You are doing a wonderful job with your DD - well done.
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